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Everyone has once or twice felt that they don't want to go to work tomorrow. Especially during Golden Week, summer vacation, and after the end of the year-end and New Year holidays, you may have had the experience of suddenly feeling that way. However, if this feeling comes up frequently, it may need to be addressed. In the first place, why do you feel that you don't want to go to the company? How can this negative feeling and psychological stress be improved? We interviewed psychiatrist Shion Kabasawa, author of the best-selling book "Stress-Free Super Comprehensive Complete Guide" and a popular YouTube channel.
Most of the reasons why people don't want to go to work are because of their relationships. It is said that in 90% of cases when office workers feel stress due to workplace problems, it is caused by human relationships. When I listen to the story, many people are worried that "I'm hated by my boss" or "I'm being left out of my team". However, in reality, it often depends on the person's thoughts. On the other hand, when it comes to worries about work, we often hear people say, "I'm doing my best, but I'm not being evaluated," and "I'm doing my best, but I'm not getting results." According to a survey on "worries and issues in personnel evaluation of SMEs", about half of them answered "low" about "self-evaluation at the current company". Because they are not valued and given important roles, their work is not rewarding.
There are many types of relationship problems, but one of the most common characteristics of people who are prone to stress is the tendency to think that they have to get along with everyone. There are so many different types of people at work that it's almost impossible to get along with everyone. If you have ten people around you, there will always be one who hates you. There are two people who like me and become my ally. The other seven are neither. I describe this as the "one-two-seven rule of favor." For example, in a workplace with 20-30 people, it doesn't matter if 3 people don't like you. "Relationships don't work out" is something that applies to everyone. Conversely, there are twice as many people who love you as there are people who hate you. “Workplace relationships” are temporary and transitory relationships. It's not that important in your life. If someone at work talks badly about you or mounts you constantly, they won't follow you home. Even after returning home, thinking about what they said to me today is like creating and inviting an imaginary "Attack Alien" inside of me. The most important human relationships are family, lovers, and partners. Next is my friend. Enjoy spending time with them. Spending time relaxing with your loved ones can relieve most of your stress. Nonetheless, if you go to the company, the attack star is still a curious existence. The most effective way to deal with aggressors is to say "thank you" and be kind. Attackers are pleasant offenders, so the more they get angry or refute, the more they rejoice and intensify their attacks. So please smile and say thank you. In addition, please do what you can do for the other person and be kind to the other person as much as possible. Both the person who is kind and the person who is kind will release the love substance "oxytocin". Your opponent will like you more and will not be able to attack you.